Why Anti-Gay Voice
Shouldn’t Get Equal Time
QI am a resident of California who strongly supports
diversity and equality of all individuals despite race,
religion, gender, age, etc. No one should be treated differently for their inherited traits. However, one thing to note
with Prop. 8 is that same-sex couples within the state of
California have access to the same rights and benefits under
CA Family Code as any “opposite-sex” married individuals.
Prop. 8 is solely an issue about the definition of marriage; it is not about rights. Same-sex couples can choose
to join together in a union, but marriage is and has always
been a legal agreement between a man and a woman, not
“Party A” and “Party B.”
And how will we define “party?” What is to be considered Party A vs. Party B? It may seem like pure semantics,
but our legal system feeds off of such semantics.
Consider this: If I and other mothers are tired of being
called such and would rather be called fathers because
it has a better connotation (to us) or has more (or better) rewards, can I simply create a coalition to change my
title because I (and others) deserve the right to be called
A father is a father and a mother is a mother. Each is
rightly called so, and each person with such a title should
accept and respect that role as it is and has always been.
Again, each individual needs and deserves to be valued
and provided equal opportunity for who he or she is but
not for the sake of changing the definition of a foundational
institution of our society.
aThank you for your e-mail, but I’m afraid I completely disagree with you.
First, let’s get our facts straight: By a court decision earlier this month, Proposition 8 is now officially titled the “ELIMINATES RIGHT OF SAME-SEX
COUPLES TO MARRY” initiative. It is an elimination
of current rights and a denial of future rights. It is
a cruel proposition, and the original wording of the
initiative (by its proponents) was misleading. There
is nothing benign about this and there is no shelter
from the fact that this proposition will deny people
human and civil rights.
You are factually wrong about Proposition 8 and
I disagree with the rest of your logic. Slavery was
a “foundational institution” of our society, as was
male-only suffrage. As far as tradition, please refer to
the columns I’ve written about the use of the Bible
to support slavery, deny women the right to vote and
If you “strongly support diversity,” then you
should strongly support a person’s right to both
gender identity and gender expression. I completely
agree with the LGBT-rights organization Human
Rights Campaign’s mission statement: “HRC envisions an America where gay, lesbian, bisexual and
transgender people are ensured equality and embraced as full members of the American family at
home, at work and in every community.”
That means a person who is transgender and
decides to express who they know they truly are may
indeed change from “mother” to “father.”
The bottom line is there is no “except for” when it
comes to diversity and/or human and civil rights.